I told myself when I first started this blog that I wouldn't make it about being gay. Since that is obviously a huge part of my life and who I am as a person it was inevitable that I blog about different things. This isn't my coming out story (which btw isn't much, but I'll address it in a later blog), but it's more about what I face everyday of my life. Now some people of the gay community liken our struggle for equality with that of Women and African Americans. I'm not 100 % on board with that. The gay community does face opposition, there is no doubt about that, however I'm not sure if it's to the extreme of other movements that has swept this nation. I could be wrong. There isn't much of a strong LGBT community in my neck of the woods. And, truth be told, I don't pay that much attention to things. It's sad, I know, but it isn't something that I really think I need to focus on. I'm comfortable with my life, for the most part, and don't see the need to make any waves.
You could move. ~Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby," in response to a reader who complained that a gay couple was moving in across the street and wanted to know what he could do to improve the quality of the neighborhood
But somethings do upset me. I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but someday in the future I hope to be. I've stated for the last 5/10 years that I don't think I want to get married. It's not an important thing to me. The right person could change that, but right now in the place that I'm at in my life I don't see the need to get a piece of paper to say I love someone and am committed to them the rest of my days. However, it'd be nice to have that option and at the present moment I only do in a few parts of my great nation. And I don't mind a road trip if it involves make my partner and I equals. Able to have each other on our insurances, be treated equally in a hospital or what have you. But just because I can go to Iowa and get married, doesn't mean when I come back to Missouri that the government in this state will recognize my marriage. They won't. So if I want to take a commute to Iowa everyday for work just so I can have those insurance benefits for me and my partner, well I think that's discrimination. I don't know any straight people that have to do that. In fact I have a better shot at marrying my 1st cousin than my gay boyfriend.
Of course if it's my gay 1st cousin I'm screwed. (no pun intended) Iowa will let me marry my boyfriend, but not my 1st cousin so that would involve a longer road trip. See how that makes perfect sense?
- Edward Gorey
Now I'm not gonna preach at anyone. I know that not everyone agrees on everything. And the gay community isn't asking for everyone to agree that homosexuality is ok, but shouldn't I (as a human being and an American citizen) be treated as everyone else? I just don't understand the hesitancy of the whole issue. We gays are not recruiting any one's children nor trying to turn straight, hetero persons into gay zombies. We just want acceptance.
Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people. ~Martina Navratilova
I don't like to label myself, I think it limits me, but sometimes it's needed. Otherwise, no one will pay attention. I don't enjoy being labeled by others. I think it's my prerogative to be able to label myself.
People sometimes think I'm gay because I once played a gay in a movie. It's funny. Audiences don't think you're a murderer if you play a murderer, but they do think you're gay if you play a gay. ~Perry King
I don't like the word 'fag' or 'queer'. It's a hateful word, even if it's said in jest or love. I hate when people use the word 'gay' in a derogatory way. It hurts worse when people laugh after it's been used. And I know that the majority of people aren't thinking when they do it. That's sad. I'm not saying I'm completely faultless. I still struggle with speaking incorrectly and chide myself every time I do. It doesn't mean I'm a hypocrite, it just means I'm human.
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